What advise woul you give soemone with bad temper and annoys easily?

i just cant seem to get my patience and temper under control and ive tried so hard and i can control it for a while maybe two weeks and then i blow up at my husband or the kids and then i feel awful. im praying for help and everyhting and tryign to think b4 ispeak but its so hard to remeber!! %26lt;advise?%26gt;What advise woul you give soemone with bad temper and annoys easily?
None. I just wouldn't associate with them. Life is way too short for me to work on other people's issues. I have my own.What advise woul you give soemone with bad temper and annoys easily?
Try relaxation exercises, time and stress management and above all let go of the notion that you have to be ';Super Mom';...





We all occassional snap at those we love don't bog yourself down with guilt on top of the stress.. You are setting yourself up in a cycle that only leads to more stress..





For me I found ';closet screaming'; helped when I felt like I was gonna blow up... The kids aren't listening, the house seems to be falling down around your ears, the husband is trying to help but in that ';man'; way that just irritates you... (You know typical everyday stresses)... Excuse yourself and walk into the closet close the door and scream at the top of your lungs for a few minutes... This accomplishes 2 things, It blows off some steam and leads the husband and kids to think that you are on the edge of cracking up completely which makes them far more pliable.. Don't over use the ';Closet Scream'; as that leads to a lose in potancy..





Think of ways that you can blow off some of the steam and let go of some of the stress... Closet screaming may not be your thing but there is something that will be your thing just find it and use it...
I feel ya! I've never had a problem 'til I got married. What a wake up call. God gives you situations and circumstances to work on your weaknesses. If you have a Bible and are in to reading it, check out 1Corinthians 13:4-7. If you're going to pray for anything, ask God for the strength to love like he does. Slow to anger. 2Peter 3:9
well when you go in one try counting to 10 and breathing in with your nose then and then throw your mouth. hope it helps it dose for me when i lose it.
you have to learn to ignore certain things .for this you need to have control over your mind .this needs mastery of the senses .Yoga and meditation are the best tools to achieve this .\Besides foods also play an important role in the control of the senses .\Resort to ';sathvic'; food .foods that do not stir up the senses while practising yoga.


yoga is not just an allopathic painkiller that affords temporary relief instantaneously.It conditions your body and mind to take control of your senses gradually.There are yoga classes conducted everywhere and they teach meditation also .
Since this question came up in the category Religion and Spirituality, I will give you an answer from Geeta.





The mother of all problems is expectation. In a perfect world, everyone does their duty, so all is good. However, our world is not perfect.





There are problems with both us and others. We expect someone to do something for us. Lets say he/she satisfies our expectation. What happens? We want more.





Lets take the opposite situation. We expect someone to do something for us. He/She does not do it. What happens? We are angry.





In Hindi, Kaamna is the Janani of Dukh. Kaamna gets fulfilled, we get Lobh. Kaamna does not get fulfilled, we get Krodh.





Solution:


If you realize the nature of living beings, be it your mother, father, husband, children, friends, yourself...they are all selfish. God made them that way. If you do not know this, you will one day.





So stop expecting. The anger will disappear.
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If we determine to solve a problem, we have to find out its roots. I feel that we get angry with people who are related to us in any way and our expectations from them fail. The more intimate the relationship, the angrier we feel. As such we feel more frustrated from such instances happening in our own families than associates in career or unrelated persons. It is our perception of situation and logics presented by chitta (sub-conscious mind), that makes us react and get irritated, if attitude thrusts us towards that. We feel that our sorrows are due to actions of those particular persons. In fact, we have to understand that the remote control of our sorrows is not, in fact, in the hands of other people.





In fact, we get two types of anger. Number one, internal that is, what our heart felt; number two, our reaction and expression to related person. Health-wise speaking, number two is not so dangerous. Number one internal feeling can have negative effect to any extent in our lives, on our mental tranquility, on our health. It is simply because we conclude that OUR SUCH AND SUCH SORROWS ARE CAUSED BY THAT PERSON. If we understand following facts and ask chitta to accept them honestly, anger will vanish.





We get pleasures and sorrows as per our prarabdh (destiny) as arranged by orders of the God Almighty. These are outcomes of our previous karmas (actions). And these karmas ripen at different intervals of time. We get results of karmas at appropriate times. The persons delivering you pleasures and sorrows are just postmen of that God. You will get what you deserve, not necessarily through those persons whom you had been helping or maltreating. Presently whoever is instrumental in delivering you pleasure or sorrow, will act towards you as per your immediate destiny. NOBODY, IN FACT, CAN BENEFIT US OR CAN DAMAGE US.





Next point is, why are you irritated with your family members or your subordinates? Because they did not obey you (or at least obeyed the same very unwillingly). You concluded, that the pertinent point should be fixed in a particular manner. They donot agree. Now I ask you to honestly judge yourself, as to how much you obey YOURSELF. You know what should be done, you resolve to take specific actions for self-improvement, health, performance of duties etc., but you simply ignore your own resolutions due to laziness, casual approach and on flimsy grounds. What right, do you possess, to get angry with people, who disagree with you?





Next point is, anger strengthens our wrong attitudes and spoils our health, our mental tranquility. We get hypertension, depression, heart diseases and other problems. Can we afford all that? No.





Now what is the solution? Should we forget imposition of discipline in our family members and subordinates and should we surrender before every Tom Dock%26amp; Harry?


No. Big No.


I told, there are basically, two faces of anger. Internal and external. This heartfelt internal anger is dangerous and damaging. In your practical life, take stock of position, think out an honest way to monitor the situation, express your views to relevant persons and try to handle the situation tactfully as the situation and your role warrants. Then, whatever is going to happen, let it happen. Silently, watch the drama of God unfold, and at the heart of hearts, do not blame that person accountable for your sorrows. You can and should act in best of your capacity, but results are not in your hands. Yes, your, honest approach, will make your future prarbdh much better and your equipoised mind will save your health.





Expression of external anger can be used, though avoided to handle the situation, but internal anger must be pacified by pondering over the above logics.
...actually, the bible states that you already have patients, but you just have to work it...
Get some help from professional anger management councilors. They will dig deep inside to find out what the real problem is. If you choose to do this though, don't waste your time if you can't be 100% open and honest. Praying for patience and understanding will only increase your chances of the Lords help and that's something you should strive for everyday. GOOD LUCK %26amp; GOD BLESS!!
chill...





find another outlet for your aggression...





maybe kickboxing once a week?
You could see a psychologist.


It won't hurt, maybe they'll help you find out what you're inner feeling are and whats causing it.
Go into your parayer closet and shut the door..........and He that prayeth in secret God shall rewrd thee openly.........





Meaning......Go set and Read the WORD and spend time with God.........and in it one can and will change there moods and prespectives...........





And if your not saved........REPENT...and accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour........and pray and ask Him to help you.......to Follow Him and His ways ...........





Then turn loose of all the negative thoughts fustrations and allow God to be God in your life , and in your childrens lifes as well !!!!!
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I understand, and after it happens, you feel so bad, but words spoken can't be taken back, all you can do is apologize. It could be a combination of hormones messing with you and/or a bit of bi-polar-ism. I'd talk to my Dr. now and see if he has a recommendation. I'm sure he will and it could save you a lot of personal grief.
It's your choice: religion and/or science. Either turn to God or a doctor.Or both.


Or MAYBE you should focus on your temper instead of your jeans: ';Jeans like frankie bs or ultra low jeans?';
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Begin with praying daily to God or just even remembering him or talking to him when you feel you are being overpowered by anger..soon your anger will change to love and kindness :)


all the best
I think, you are a little bit bored with your daily routine of life.Try to give urself a little bit of break from the normal schedule.Moreover, u should preferably go for a 5-15 min meditation in the morning.
omg!! tell me about it, i get pissed off so easily and i hate it when people are so goddamn thick... i wanna c these answers cuz im in the same position minus the husband and kids lol
meditate
Get over yourself.
well its good to let tht anger out its healthy but i advised u think of peacefull thoughts u know waterfalls clean air or just go for a walk thts what i do
I was the same way, so I went through anger management. You can voluntarily choose to do this.





As Lucy VanPelt said ';The mere fact that you recognize that you have a problem indicates that you are not too far gone.';





I am not a doctor, but I would recommend getting a complete physical and check the side effects on any meds you are taking. It couldn't hurt to cut out caffeine and get a full night's sleep too!
Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri: Some Ansari persons asked for (something) from Allah's Apostle (p.b.u.h) and he gave them. They again asked him for (something) and he again gave them. And then they asked him and he gave them again till all that was with him finished. And then he said ';If I had anything. I would not keep it away from you. (Remember) Whoever abstains from asking others, Allah will make him contented, and whoever tries to make himself self-sufficient, Allah will make him self-sufficient. And whoever remains patient, Allah will make him patient. Nobody can be given a blessing better and greater than patience.'; (Book #24, Hadith #548)





And seek help in patience and As-Salat (the prayer) and truly it is extremely heavy and hard except for Al-Khashioon (i.e. the true believers in Allah - those who obey Allah with full submission, fear much from His Punishment, and believe in His Promise (Paradise, etc.) and in His Warnings (Hell, etc.)).


( 爻賵乇丞 丕賱亘賯乇丞 , Al-Baqara, Chapter #2, Verse #45)





153 O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salat (the prayer). Truly! Allah is with As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.).


154 And say not of those who are killed in the Way of Allah, ';They are dead.'; Nay, they are living, but you perceive (it) not.


155 And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.).


156 Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: ';Truly! To Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.';


157 They are those on whom are the Salawat (i.e. blessings, etc.) (i.e. who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are those who) receive His Mercy, and it is they who are the guided-ones.


al- Baqarah
I do the same thing, quite often. I hate it. But I just have too much on my plate sometimes. I keep praying about it too. But I really think having at least 30 minutes a day alone to exercise is helping me. It releases endorphins, plus makes you feel like you are accomplishing something for you. Being a wife %26amp; mom takes alot of patience, time and its hard to be perfect ALL the time. ....Hopefully I can keep following my own advice on this one :) Good luck!
Seek your local Mental Health Association for some angry management classes and may God Bless you.
i'm in the same boat...(except i haven't prayed)





what i have done is try to put every day in perspective, see my kids as little beings with little understanding (when they drive me nuts) and tell your husband you need some time every week for yourself to ';refresh'; and then do it. Don't give up your hobbies and don't speak out of anger, try to catch it in your mind before you allow your mouth to talk
Always count slowly to ten before responding to a confrontation. Praying is nonsense.
Hello Sharla,


Two points in your note I have noticed. 1. praying the other trying to think. You pray whom? You think what?


Easily annoyed and bad temper need to be given serious thinking, because it may create some bodily disorders.


If you don't annoyed and have no angry is also not normal.


Lead your kids and husband in to your thinking and prayer if it is good.
Examine what makes you mad. Are you expecting too much of another person? Are you defending your rights? What we learn as Christians is that we give up our rights. When someone does something that steps on our rights as a person, mother, wife, husband, citizen, etc. how do we react? If we give those rights to God our reaction will change. If we realize that we are not owed or guaranteed anything then how can we get mad when someone doesn't do what we expect? I realize this is a short answer, but if you expect less of others (even when they are Christian), and give up your rights, a lot of anger will disappear.
do MEDITATION.it will change your life.