What to advise my 14 yo son? He wants to date!?

He's in 10th grade and wants to date a girl on Monday! please,


i know lot's of kids are doing this, but, Im not ready to deal with teen coupling and heartache. should i suggest 'group' dates only?


What to advise my 14 yo son? He wants to date!?
I'm 14. I'm a girl. And if it's his FIRST date then,I think he will be fine.





You should let him go.I know it may be hard for you,but for him it's even harder not to date.If he doesn't get the experience of dating now,he will be a reck when he's older.What to advise my 14 yo son? He wants to date!?
Ah yes, time to stretch the apron strings to the breaking point.





You'll no doubt get tons of advice, but one piece of advice I received that I've always treasured was this: ';You are special to the girl you are dating / going out with / going ';steady'; with. At least you are special enough to her for her to go out with you. This can go in all sorts of directions, both good and bad, but whatever you do, do not do anything that will ever make you a bad memory for her.';





In some cases even some of the best kids need to have explained to them what that means exactly, in terms of respect, kindness, courtesy, not ';telling tales'; and how to deal with heart-ache without expressing bitterness or anger.





The other thing I would say to parents is this: Life is short and adolescence is even shorter. Let your kids have some fun while they are kids. Don't do stuff to them, either via being too restrictive or too permissive, that will make their childhood a bad memory for them too. You will know them longer as adults than you will as teenagers, so don't needlessly do anything while they are teenagers that will totally alienate them from you when they're adults.








Good luck!






Your son is in 10th grade which means he has been taking sex ed classes. He's old enough to start dating now and suggesting group dates is fine, but chances of doing many wont last. Just talk to him about dating and if you find out anything that comes up sexually just do the safe sex talk. You have to remember that things are different now a days. What was hush hush is now exposed and kids are doing everything. Whether you are ready or not, your son is. Be open with him and open minded.
Group date, home by 10, dinner and movie, know were they are at all times, give him the talk..., tell this young man that he can wait till marriage or when he is 43. It will be harmless, my mom was the same way, I have 3 brothers and I remember this time, my parents took it hard but then they realized that we were being good and having a fun time
At his age,group dates, or hanging out at her home or your home, when parents are there is great. We haven't strictly limited our 15 year old to such yet, but so far that's all that's really come up.





Until they can drive themselves around, its pretty easy to arrange for dates that involve more than just the young couple.
Set boundaries that you see fit. But in my opinion this is the age most kids start dating these days. Use this as an opportunity to tell him how to treat a woman and how the girl should act. Let him know you support him dating but dont think he should get serious any time soon. Tell him to date alot of girls to see what kind of girl he really likes . Tell him sex is completly out of the question but also be realistic and let him know what sex is the consequences and what he can use to protect himself. That includes if the girl says she is on birth control...good luck
Set limits--curfews, days when he can and can't go out--maybe no dates on school nights--schoolwork and his athletic/extracurricular activities come first, meet the young ladies. 14 year olds can't drive, so offer to chauffeur them. Make sure their dates occur in public (which can include dinner at your house--they can't be in room together with the door closed unless someone else is with them--preferably a younger tattle-tale-y sibling/cousin)





In my opinion, dating is searching for a spouse.
I remember when I was 13 and I went on my first(ish) date. Any ways he was planning on taking me to the movies. My bff Claire was just asked out by this boy she had been dying to go out with but her mom said no going with just a boy. So I offered to double date and we even got my bff Ashlee and her boy Karl to come.


Everyone had a great time. It was great and all fun but then when I went on a one on one date with Cody it wasn't that great or fun (the only good part was the good night kiss).


My opion group dates are WAY better for beginners, especially at his age. If the girl turns out to be not what he expected it's nice to have friends to go back to or if things get akward.


All together I think group dates would be best but one on one isn't THAT bad it has its ups and downs. I'm sure it'll be fine no matter what =). Just make sure they're safe!


Good luck out!!!
Be open with your son tell him how you feel and talk to him like an adult. If you try to tell him no or restrict him he will pull away and probablly do it anyway. If you talk with him openly and honestly about it he should respond well. Let him go but keep an open line of communication about it. He has to learn on his own, but theres no saying you cant help him along the way.
You should let him date. But keep on eye on them. Like only let them go to public places such as the mall, dinner, etc. Don't let them hang out alone at eachothers houses. My little brother is 14 and we just found out he had sex. My mom would let girls come over and they'd close the door. Have your honey talk to him about sex, std's, abstinence, etc. You don't want him to be out ther uneducated on sex.
No I think you should let him go on this date by himself. Just make sure theres set rules on his cerfew and whatever else you feel he needs to follow. You dont want him to think you dont trust him by telling him he has to stay in a group.
I would suggest group dates, it is a great first step. Plus, keeps them accountable. Maybe when he's 16 you can let him do one on ones, but no reason he needs to this young.
your his mother, he looks to you for answers and relys on your common knowledge and advise. with that said, you feel its ok to get the answers for your son from a bunch of complete strangers??? thats lackluster poor parenting.
Yo he's 14, let him date. And unfortunately it's your job to deal with that. But if you really don't want to then tell him that.
just give him a break and let him or else he will do it anywayz and you will get mad i know this stuff trust me... let him but say only if u go on group dates or take a friend with you
I say you let him go one the date, but just set rules on what he is and isnt allowed to do or allowed to goo.!


Gooood luck :)
Even if you don't ';allow'; he's going to do it behind your back so I say you just support him anyways.
Fourteen is too young; have him wait a year. He might be mad, but he'll thank you when he's older.
Group only gatherings are best at that age!
Let him date. I know your scared but hes a big boy now.
Just let him go on the date!
you should do group dates its alot funner and easier
helllll no! dont make him go on group dates!!!!!!!





just let him date! he'll figure out how to respond to all that drama
set some guidelines for him ans ask him to strictly follow them
just let him be him and dont judge.. just set some rules
maybe but he is pletty old enough to be dating girls now